How to control your anger

Anger management

There are times when one gets frustrated and angry over relationships with others. The key during these times is to be patient and not to lose one’s cool but rather learn to manage anger.

Time out

Take a 20 minute time-out. Take a walk. Calm yourself down. Breath deeply. Meditate. Do something else for awhile. When you argue, your pulse rate goes above 100 beats per minute, and you enter a physiological state called DPA (diffuse physiological arousal). You lose perspective.

Positive interactions

Start by actually listening not only to what your partners says, but what he or she means. Partners in conflict are not listening to understand; rather, they isten with their answer running because they are defensive. Unfortunately, defensiveness is another predictor of divorce. Stick to the issue at hand. Sees obvious but is very hard to do in the heat of battle. Focus and stay in the present . Learn to forgive. Research by Peter Larson, Ph.D., at the Smalley Relationship Center, suggests a huge relationship between marriage satisfaction and forgiveness. Communicate your feelings and needs. Tell people how you feel about what they do, instead of accusing of deliberately offensive behaviour.

5 ways to handle peer pressure

Five ways to handle peer pressure

Teens face a lot of pressure during the school years and often they don’t know how to deal with it. Here are some things you deal with it.

# Be the first to say something: If you are being bullied by someone unnecessarily take the initiative and tell that person to stop doing it.

# Be confident: Don’t be bogged down by what other have to say. Earn to take it in your stride. As the saying goes grin and bear it.. Be confident.

# Being rude is sometimes okay: Understand that it is okay to avoid people who are trying to get you to do something you do not want to do. Being rude might be good for you sometimes.

# Cultivate positive friends: Let go of people who make you fee pressured. Instead try and talk to people who are ore positive and less critical of others. This will change your perspective and make you fee ore cheerful instead of feeling glum and lonely.

How to talk to your parents

You may just need help relating to your parents or you ay need to talk to the about something difficult. Either way, read on!
Difficulty: Hard
Time Required: 15 minutes

Here’s How:

* Find a time that you and your parents can be comfortable and relaxed together.

*Make sure no one is focusing on something else while you are together (paying bills, playing Playstation, making dinner, watching TV).

*These first two steps might take some effort and patience. Be persistent!

*If you just want to shoot the breeze, try to bring up something they are interested in. Ask the questions about their day ( they love this!).

*If you have something specific you want to talk about, let them know what it is.

*If they react to what you tell them. Don’t react back!

*Let them finish and don’t interrupt. Ask them to do same for you.

*When you feel like you’ve told them what you wanted to, thank the for listening.

*If you fee like there are still things that need to be talked about, set up a time with them to talk about it another day.

Tips:

* Show them respect by focusing your attention on the conversation, looking them in the eyes, and by not being sarcastic or rolling your eyes.

* Be honest. Honesty builds trust. And life is good when your parents trust you.

* Stay cool. If you can stay calm if things get heated up, you’re showing the maturity.