How to control your anger

Anger management

There are times when one gets frustrated and angry over relationships with others. The key during these times is to be patient and not to lose one’s cool but rather learn to manage anger.

Time out

Take a 20 minute time-out. Take a walk. Calm yourself down. Breath deeply. Meditate. Do something else for awhile. When you argue, your pulse rate goes above 100 beats per minute, and you enter a physiological state called DPA (diffuse physiological arousal). You lose perspective.

Positive interactions

Start by actually listening not only to what your partners says, but what he or she means. Partners in conflict are not listening to understand; rather, they isten with their answer running because they are defensive. Unfortunately, defensiveness is another predictor of divorce. Stick to the issue at hand. Sees obvious but is very hard to do in the heat of battle. Focus and stay in the present . Learn to forgive. Research by Peter Larson, Ph.D., at the Smalley Relationship Center, suggests a huge relationship between marriage satisfaction and forgiveness. Communicate your feelings and needs. Tell people how you feel about what they do, instead of accusing of deliberately offensive behaviour.